When you realize your worth…
…magic happens.
It’s always better to lean in, baby.
I grew up with a father who constantly reminded me that I could do whatever the hell I wanted to in this life.
I grew up in West Texas surrounded by boys.
I grew up in an era that wasn’t particularly fond of women having a self-assured voice.
Yet, when you combine all of the above, you get me, the gal brimming with self-confidence who never met a strong opinion she wasn’t afraid to voice.
I have rarely questioned my worth.
Value YOU!
My recipe for getting a handle on your worth, or realizing your worth, as you chase your beautiful dream is this: VALUE YOU!
Ain’t no one else gonna do it like you will.
I even made a video about it, which I purposely started at the 4:47 tic mark. Go back and watch the rest if you like.
Knowing your worth.
The magic of what you want to do and how you want to do it, starts and ends with you.
You must know believe in your worth, no matter any outside forces that try to influence you to the contrary.
How do you know your worth?
Your worth shows up in your actions, in how you treat yourself.
How you respect yourself.
How you move through the voices that try to reduce your efforts.
How you determine what you’re WORTH.
Male or female – it doesn’t matter.
Knowing your worth meaning.
What the heck does it even mean to know what you are worth – not in a monetary sense, but in the realm of value.
Do you value who you are?
Do you have something to offer (of course you do!).
If you walk around apologetic and wishy-washy in your belief of your worth, people around you will take their cues from you and do the same.
It’s in the same vein as teaching people how to treat you.
You you believe you are someone of value (spoiler alert: we are all of value!), if you act in the truth, then others will follow your lead.
But, you say…
People don’t like me.
Someone doesn’t like you?
Toughen up, buttercup.
Someone doesn’t like your work?
Tell ’em to keep on walkin’.
Someone telling you how much you are worth, or how much your work is worth and you’re believing them?
STOP IT.
It’s time to realize your worth.
Like yourself. Period.
In the professional world, ROI (return on investment) is key.
Yet, I have used the method of examining ROI on almost everything in my personal life as well.
Are you wondering if it works?
IT DOES!
And, it will – IT DOES! – for you too.
Keep in mind this works on a personal level and a professional one.
We’ll tackle professional life first, since most folks have a bit more confidence in that arena.
How To Get A Handle on Your Worth: The Professional Version
- Determine your skill level.
- Charge what you’re worth.
- Do not flinch when anyone says you’re too expensive.
- Do not apologize.
- Do not rationalize.
- Repeat 1-5, as needed.
- If someone says you’re too expensive: DO NOT WALK AWAY! Simply ask: Compared to what?
How To Get A Handle on Your Worth: The Personal Version
The personal version is slightly different in that it is a compilation of self-affirming truths to remind yourself of.
- You are worthy.
- You are valuable.
- You are a heirs of God.
- You are children of the Kingdom.
- Do not apologize, ever.
- God made you as you are, as intended for his purpose.
- You are loved.
- Repeat all truths, as necessary.
When you realize your worth, it accomplishes three things:
#1: You stand firm in your belief that your life has worth; you are not swayed and can therefore proceed with confidence.
#2: You’ll instantly be presented with pain points you can address (and solve!), shining a light on the ROI you offer, thereby almost effortlessly qualifying your value in all areas of your life, personal and professional.
#3: It will make your life exponentially better.
When you realize your worth…
…the world looks different.
It’s not different, but your perspective has changed for the better.
It’s magic, baby.
Be your own advocate.
If you aren’t used to being you’re own best advocate, this may take some practice.
Be courageous.
Be bold.
Be confident.
NO FLINCHING!
Practice – Practice – Practice.
I can’t wait to hear how you jump this hurtle. (OMGosh, does it always come back around to running for me?!)
I swear, when you realize your worth, magic happens.
Onward!
Lila Diller
I never really thought of this in relationship to offering services. I will definitely need to practice this by asking, “compared to what?” Thank you.
patti tucker
Can’t wait to hear about your success story the first time you ask.
Natalie A
Thank you for the reminders! Value You, I love that! Thank you for sharing your inspiring message!
patti tucker
Value you – ALL THE WAY!
Stacy
In case I haven’t told you lately,
I LOVE YOU!!!!
patti tucker
Always happy to see you, Stacy! So much love, right back at you!
Silvia
Patti has been great meeting
you again,after our times in other group when we start doing videos.Remember?
You really nailed it,your post is very good and only God knows how much I was in need to read your copy and meanings.A big huge!
patti tucker
Silvia – I do remember! Thank you for the kind words and I’m so happy I could help.
Caroline Ruth
#7 is such a good reminder in this blogging hustle. I need this reminder today. Thanks for all your support. And keep telling people to “tough’n up buttercup”. I would hate for that to die out in this blasè culture.
patti tucker
I’m so glad this helped, Caroline. You’re a tough buttercup!